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Marriage Is Simple

Marriage is simple. In fact, I think almost everything that matters in life is simple. Even the Bible and Christianity are simple. Politics and economics are very simple. The reason is because at the root of everything that matters is a defined relationship, and there is nothing complicated about relationships. The how-tos are built into us as children.

As children we wanted friends. Sometimes we approached someone the way Anne Shirley did and bluntly invited the person to be best friends. Usually, however, we just slowly became friends with other kids by spending time with them. In class we talked and sat by each other. At recess we ran and raced and tagged. We laughed and joked. We learned to only say the things that made people laugh.

Relationships ended when our feelings were hurt or if someone was mean to us. If they insulted us in front of people we avoided being around them. If they smelled bad we avoided them. If they were boring we found someone who was interesting. The people we chose to be friends with were the ones who made us feel good and were nice to us.

I want to submit to you that things are no different now than when we were kids.

I am twenty-five years old. I’ve been married for almost seven years. I have a two year old girl, and my wife is pregnant with our second daughter. I’ve been a teacher in a Bible school for four years, and I still don’t like to be around smelly people. I will not hang out with people that insult me in front of others. I choose to spend time with the people that make me feel good. I talk to the people who laugh at my jokes and tell jokes that make me laugh. I make and break relationships the same way I did as a seven year old, and it is not selfish or wrong. It is not immature. The principles of relationships are just that simple and universal.

I plan to blog here about relationships. I’ll get really specific at times. Sometimes I will tell stories. I also want to hear and post your stories. Welcome to marriageissimple.com. I hope that we can help each other learn to relate to people and make our marriages not just last but be incredible.

swallowing the impossible pill

I recently started an herbal detox program. This was not for drugs or alcohol. Don’t get excited. I was all excited until I opened the box. If you read the post title you can probably guess what I found. GIANT PILLS!  I had to take TEN giant pills five times a day and two more for dessert. And by “giant pills” I mean the standard size vitamin pill which to me is giant. I struggle with the small ibuprofen pills — well, I should say that I used to struggle with pills. If you are still reading, you either love me or have the same problem.

I was about to spend half an hour googling for tips on swallowing pills. I thought that surely someone would have a magic trick that would solve all of my problems. The answer was, “Yes, but don’t call me ‘Surely!'” Here’s the deal. Before starting the Google process I decided to ask my wife how she did it. She could probably swallow five large pills in one gulp. She said, “I don’t do anything different. I just take them.” I pressed for more, “yeah, but how do you take them?” She told me. I said, “OHHHHH…really? Duh!”

It changed my life.

I started doing the Beth Pill Taking Method, and I am now five days and about 220 pills into my herbal detox. I have only struggled with about two or three of the pills. Not one landed on the floor like they used to.

Here’s how it works.

1. Hold your head level, chin parallel with the ground, staring forward.

This is the most important change for me, but I’ll include the rest in case it will help you.

2. Put the pill in your mouth at least half-way back.

My wife jerks her head back with one shake to push the pill farther back. I find that too hard to accomplish.

3. Put the water in your mouth and drink – WITHOUT tilting your head back.

The pill will straighten itself out and slide down with hardly a bump. Most of the time now I don’t even notice it.

I hope this helps you. If it does, please comment, and let me know!